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Ashley Nielson's avatar

This is beautiful and so true.

I will tell you, the older my oldest gets, the easier all the hard stuff of babies feels, because the troubles I’m facing with a 7 year old are harder in comparison. So i keep thinking, i need more babies because even though i thought this was hard, i now see it’s the easiest option—the most love returned. Then i remember—they’ll become 7 year olds eventually and i talk myself back down. I cried and cried when we found out about our surprise 3rd, i was so overwhelmed with my two…and now i might want a 4th because he’s so wonderful and brings so much happiness to our lives. No one (in stable circumstances) ever regrets the children they have, but many regret the ones they don’t (is what my mama always told me.)

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Seo Yun Yang's avatar

Oh Caroline, this is so honest and beautiful and I’m kind of giddy that I can read more of your beautiful writing and bear witness to all these things. Even with 4 🙈 I feel 100% the same. What will I be without babies hanging from me? As I type, my littlest is napping on my chest and these naps are numbered and it’s heartbreaking. I’ve been in this phase for almost a decade and it’s hard to let go and move on. I keep saying, there’s gotta be a support group or textbook or a 7-step program 🙏🏼

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